De ce femeilor le place sa manipuleze barbatii ?

Mi s-a intamplat chiar mie si ceea ce a fost si mai trist este ca a venit de la cea mai apropiata amica feminina pe care am avut-o si pe care am respectat-o cu toata fiinta mea pana acum. De ce oare le place femeilor sa manipuleze barbatii cu riscul sa piarda totul, incusiv prietenia lor??

Funny/sad dar adevarat :D

1.    Femeile pot fi promovate pe criterii gen sâni, coapse, fund, buze. Bărbaţii trebuie să aibă studii, experienţă, competenţă.

2.    În caz de dezastre, catastrofe naturale, naufragii, femeile şi copii sunt salvaţi primii. Bărbaţii întotdeauna la urmă.

3.    Dacă două femei se îmbrăţişează, se ţin de mână, se sărută, stau împreună etc înseamnă că sunt prietene. Dacă doi bărbaţi fac asta, sunt poponari.

4.    Dacă o femeie nu se descurcă cu banii înseamnă că are o problemă financiară. Dacă este cazul unui bărbat, atunci el este un incapabil, un ratat, un neisprăvit.

5.    Dacă o femeie face mofturi, este capricioasă, cu toane, nu ştie ce vrea, îşi exprimă liber emoţiile, se destăinuie, înseamnă că e "feminină". Dacă un bărbat face aşa, este imatur, slab, efeminat.

6.    Femeile au dreptul să mănânce gratis la restaurant, să intre gratuit în cluburi etc. Bărbatul plăteşte întotdeauna.

7.    Dacă o femeie singură nu face sex, este o femeie cinstită. Dacă un bărbat nu face sex, nu este bărbat.

8.    Dacă vrea să facă sex, femeia trebuie doar să aleagă. Bărbatul trebuie să cucerească.

9.    Dacă o femeie nu satisface sexual un bărbat, nu contează. El este oricum mulţumit. Dacă un bărbat nu satisface o femeie, atunci este impotent.

10.  Dacă o femeie naşte, devine sfântă. Bărbatul ajunge sfânt doar dacă este răstignit pe cruce.

11.  Bărbatul trebuie să fie tot timpul amabil, politicos, atent cu femeile. Ele nu au nicio obligaţie în acest sens.

12.  Femeile sunt numite "sexul frumos". Bărbaţii, nu.

13.  Un bărbat, dacă are o problemă, trebuie s-o rezolve (că d-aia e bărbat!). Femeia trebuie doar să găsească un… bărbat.

Revenirea cu o dilema

In ultima vreme m-am vazut absorbit de stirile politice din Romania unde puciul guvernamental facut de Ponta, ministrul plagiator si Antonescu cel cu mai putin de 2% prezenta la munca m-au trezit din apatia in care cazusem. Am fost fascinat de politica tot timpul dar in ultima vreme mi-am gasit alte preocupari mondene care m-au tinut deoparte de acest subiect. Nu, nu, nu va speriati, acest post nu este despre parerile mele politice ci este mai degraba despre ce ne face pe noi ca oameni sa click.
Razboiul politic din Romania, pe cat de dezgustator pe atat de inviorator m-a facut sa renasc intr-un fel. Acum ca lucrurile au intrat inapoi in matca lor am cazut intr-o reflectie a vietii mele pe care nu am mai facut-o de mult timp.
Rutina mea zilnica asa cum am descris-o in posturile anterioare este de a ma scula dis de dimineata, ba de miorlaitul disperat al pisicii din camera de unde este inchisa, ba de mormaitul moracanos al lui Saaba, credincioasa mea catelusa mea lup, ba de cantatul cocosului pe care vecinul mexican s-a hotarat sa si-l aduca din Mexico si care nici nu stiam ca ai voie sa-l ai in mijlocul orasului...dar in nici un caz de soneria ceasului desteptator. O data terminat cu datul mancarii celor doi membrii ai familiei - catelusa si pisica, fac o mica gimnastica in curtea unde mi-am plantat niste rosii care nu se mai coc, ma apuc cu sarg si drag sa ma spal si sa imbuc cate ceva din frigiderul aproape gol - frigiderul este aproape gol nu eu...adica poate si eu, dar ma rog that is not the point!
Ma imbrac rapid sar in masina si plec la munca, care nu este mai departe de 10 minute distanta, depinzand de cate schoolbuses se afla in fata mea cand conduc.
Din cand in cand citesc blogurile romanilor din tara si imi dau seama cat de diferita este intreaga mentalitate a celor ramasi in tara comparativ cu cea a celor plecati. Nu ma refer ca ar fi o mentalitate buna sau rea, ci pur si simplu diferita si de fapt atat de diferita ca nu ma pot opri in a ma intreba: "Pana la urma ce este important in viata?"
In America, unde traiesc acum, datorita faptului ca viata este absolut complet independenta de societate, valorile morale si sociale sunt complet diferite. Conversatiile si interactiunea chiar cu prietenii este tinuta la minim. Lumea este intr-o continua lupta pentru supravietuire. Aici realizezi ce inseamna sa supravietuiesti. Nu ai familie, nu ai prieteni, nu exista serivicii medicale universale, in caz ca te imbolnavesti majoritatea o suck it up, adica mai pe romaneste inghit si merg mai departe, plus ca nu exista nici pensie propiuzisa ca in Romania sau restul lumii.
Deci in acest survival mode viata se desfasoara la viteza luminii si nu pot zice ca este rau. Banii curg si viata merge. Ce lipseste este timpul pe care se pare ca cei din Romania il au din belsug. Poate asta este una din cauze de am vazut mai multi bautori de vinuri in America decat oriunde in lume.
Deci revin la problema initiala - ce este mai important? Sa muncesti mult ca sa faci bani pe masura, dar sa nu ai timp deloc, totusi in acelasi timp sa fii complet independent? Sau sa faci bani mai putini si sa traiesti in Romania dar sa ai tot timpul din lume sa iti faci vacante cu saptamanile sau in wknd sa te duci la mare sau la munte? Mare dilema :)

Un posting pus de un prieten de al meu care m-a impresionat profund - il share cu voi si sper sa simtiti asa cum am simtit si eu, uneori avem nevoie de astfel de sinceritate, enjoy:

"Ce faci cand iti ajunge viata la rascruce de drumuri. M-am aflat acuma cateva luni aruncat in tumultul vietii unde a trebuit sa iau hotararea daca agatandu-ma singur de bustean o sa ne salveze pe amandoi sau aruncandu-ma in vartej si apucandu-ma de alt bustean mai mic poate salva fiinta pe care am iubit-o.  Niciodata nu am inteles expresia folosita in filme sau romane de drama “te iubesc atat de mult incat te las sa pleci”, dar evenimentele din ultimele luni mi-au prezentat o imagine foarte clara si mi-au aratat ce inseamna aceasta expresie. Da -  te iubesc mult, mult prea mult ca sa raman cu tine. Un bustean de care ne agatam amandoi ne poate duce la fund, poate din cauza ca ne uitam plini de dragoste in ochii celuilalt si nu vedem cascada in care vom cadea. Trebuie sa ne despartim ca sa supravietuim. Dragostea mea nu va muri niciodata si amprentele degetelor mele pe scoarta umeda a busteanului pe care pluteam vor fi acolo pentru eternitate, asa cum vor fi si ochii tai mari si umezi in inima mea - good bye my lover, good bye my friend!"

Funny

Life Lessons

1.Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time  with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2.Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3.Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled .

4.Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5.Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6.Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7.Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8.Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9.Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10.Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

11.Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12.Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13.Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14.Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15.Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16.Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17.Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18.Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19.Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20.Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21.Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22.Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23.Stop trying to make things how other people want them. – The real world rewards people who get things done.

24.Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.

25.Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26.Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27.Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.

28.Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29.Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30.Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Am sa raspund la una din intrebari care se pare ca creaza o mare confuzie in randul Pontanistanistilor care vor sa traiasca in tara si sistemul care ne indreapta spre Pontanistan - de ce am refuzat sa merg la vot si sa legitimez politica fricii si veninului promovata de USL?

Nu am votat pentru mai multe motive.

Eu nu imi doresc să susţin un sistemul care cred ca nu este bun pentru Romania si romani. Nu pot legitima un joc murdar politic practicat de Antonescu si Ponta. Daca m-as asocia cu acesti politicieni murdari ar insemna ca sunt ca ei.
Cu atat mai putin vreau sa sustin acest sistem dupa ce au terfelit imaginea Romaniei in lume fara pic de considerare fata de poporul roman. Dacă aş fi votat ar fi insemnat ca am fost de acord cu toate manevrele politice facute de catre Ponta si USL cand au acaparat puterea. In cazul in care Romania va ajunge ca Rusia stalinista sau ca Germania fascista nu vreau ca votul meu sa fi legitimat un astfel de sistem.

Eu impreuna cu alte 11 milioane de romani cu drept la vot am ales sa votam impotriva USL si refuzam sa lasam tara sa devina Pontanistan!

Istoria dictaturii USL descrisa de Le Monde:

Cotidianul francez explică cititorilor săi în mai multe capitole criza politică de la Bucureşti. Dintre ele, cel mai amplu este intitulat „mâna forte asupra instituţiilor statului”. Deşi majoritatea parlamentară era în mod evident suficientă pentru suspendarea preşedintelui, coaliţia de stânga de la Bucureşti a avut grijă să nu lase la voia întâmplării niciun detaliu. Aşa au fost demişi şefii Camerelor Parlamentului, iar preşedintele PNL Crin Antonescu a ajuns între timp chiar şef interimar al statului. Aşa a fost schimbat Avocatul Poporului, singura instituţie ce poate contesta Ordonanţe ale Guvernului la Curtea Constituţională. Aşa au fost schimbate conducerile de la Institutul Cultural Român, de la Televiziunea Publică, iar Monitorul Oficial a fost trecut în subordinea directă a Executivului.

Pentru mine suna cam stalinist acest mod de guvernare, deci va rog nu ma mai intrebati de ce nu am legitimat USL-ul prin prezenta mea la vot.